Charles is the Man.Molly is the Woman!

2007-09-18T20:13:00.000-07:00

2006-05-06T19:30:00.000-07:00

Look out Molly!

2005-11-05T22:45:00.000-08:00

When Your Baby Becomes a Big Brother or Sister
by Carol Harding, Your Baby Today

I remember holding our first son in my arms just weeks before his sister was born, knowing that our lives would never be the same again. We had always wanted our children to have siblings, but now it seemed that our precious baby's life was changing much too quickly. Were any of us ready?

How do we prepare our babies to be big brothers and sisters? How do we prepare ourselves to be parents of siblings? We want to have a unique closeness with each child, and we want to raise children who get along with each other. How do we help our children develop special relationships with each other as well as with us, their parents?

Judy Dunn, Distinguished Professor of Human Development at The Pennsylvania State University, has conducted research on brother/sister relationships for several decades. After observing many different brothers and sisters, Dunn and her colleagues reported that most relationships were warm, affectionate, and friendly much of the time. In their book, Siblings: Love, Envy, and Understanding, Dunn and Kendrick reported that more than 95 percent of the older brothers and sisters they observed were eager to help care for the new baby in their family. They also reported that aggressive acts toward the baby were uncommon. This is good news.

Based on the research of Dunn and others, several ways are listed below to help our children become big sisters and brothers.

Prepare your child for the new arrival. Adjustment to big brotherhood or sisterhood is easier when it's not a surprise.
Share the new baby's caregiving with the older sibling. Even the youngest brother or sister can be "baby's special helper." Supervise carefully, choose tasks appropriately, and have fun together.
Be sure your children have time to play with each other (with you close by but not necessarily involved). Shared fantasy play leads to good times together and contributes to warm relationships for life.
Encourage your children to share "silly times" with each other (again with you close by but not always involved). In her book, Young Children's Close Relationships, Dunn reported that humor forms one of the best lifelong connections between brothers and sisters.
Expect some sibling rivalry. Although rivalry is one of the biggest things parents worry about, it's a normal part of children's "growing pains" and should be curtailed only if it becomes overly hostile or harmful. Interestingly, Dunn observed that preschool children who have frequent conflict with their siblings are particularly likely to share, help, and cooperate.
Feelings within the family make a difference. Although children's temperaments (personalities) are important in sister/brother relationships, how parents feel and act towards each other affects how brothers and sisters get along (or don't). When fathers have warm relationships with their children and don't "play favorites" and when both parents perceive their family as close, siblings have more positive relationships and less conflictWhen Your Baby Becomes a Big Brother or Sister
by Carol Harding, Your Baby Today

I remember holding our first son in my arms just weeks before his sister was born, knowing that our lives would never be the same again. We had always wanted our children to have siblings, but now it seemed that our precious baby's life was changing much too quickly. Were any of us ready?

How do we prepare our babies to be big brothers and sisters? How do we prepare ourselves to be parents of siblings? We want to have a unique closeness with each child, and we want to raise children who get along with each other. How do we help our children develop special relationships with each other as well as with us, their parents?

Judy Dunn, Distinguished Professor of Human Development at The Pennsylvania State University, has conducted research on brother/sister relationships for several decades. After observing many different brothers and sisters, Dunn and her colleagues reported that most relationships were warm, affectionate, and friendly much of the time. In their book, Siblings: Love, Envy, and Understanding, Dunn and Kendrick reported that more than 95 percent of the older brothers and sisters they observed were eager to help care for the new baby in their family. They also reported that aggressive acts toward the baby were uncommon. This is good news.

Based on the research of Dunn and others, several ways are listed below to help our children become big sisters and brothers.
Prepare your child for the new arrival. Adjustment to big brotherhood or sisterhood is easier when it's not a surprise.
Share the new baby's caregiving with the older sibling. Even the youngest brother or sister can be "baby's special helper." Supervise carefully, choose tasks appropriately, and have fun together.
Be sure your children have time to play with each other (with you close by but not necessarily involved). Shared fantasy play leads to good times together and contributes to warm relationships for life.
Encourage your children to share "silly times" with each other (again with you close by but not always involved). In her book, Young Children's Close Relationships, Dunn reported that humor forms one of the best lifelong connections between brothers and sisters.
Expect some sibling rivalry. Although rivalry is one of the biggest things parents worry about, it's a normal part of children's "growing pains" and should be curtailed only if it becomes overly hostile or harmful. Interestingly, Dunn observed that preschool children who have frequent conflict with their siblings are particularly likely to share, help, and cooperate.
Feelings within the family make a difference. Although children's temperaments (personalities) are important in sister/brother relationships, how parents feel and act towards each other affects how brothers and sisters get along (or don't). When fathers have warm relationships with their children and don't "play favorites" and when both parents perceive their family as close, siblings have more positive relationships and less conflict

2005-09-13T21:56:00.000-07:00

I dont want to write this. I have been having problems with my heart for the last week.I went to doctor and they did eco and the result was 11% ejection factor. Down from my 15% for the last 5 or 6 years. I am going back in on friday.Its not looking good.I dont have a good feeling about this.

I love you Molly. fuck I dont want to leave this message. Love your brother.If he screws up still love him. All you have in this world is how you treat people. All the rest goes away.

Love Dad.

2005-09-04T02:32:00.000-07:00

I don't think you get it. My heart is enlarged right now.It is messing with my breathing.I don't think I could walk to Safeway with out passing out.You arent taking me seriously. If it doesnt go back I will end up in hospital in a day or 2.

I Love you Molly and Charles.

2005-05-04T19:10:00.000-07:00

She made it!! MAy 2,2005.

2005-05-02T10:34:00.000-07:00

You Can go here to Look!

2005-05-01T21:58:00.000-07:00

http://www.googlism.com/index.htm?ism=molly&type=1

2005-05-01T21:36:00.000-07:00

Count down on my first baby.Its a girl.8 more days or less.I think I am getting excited.Its been long.I am scared and happy at the same time.Crazy.!

I love you J! You to CJ!. Sure I am an asshole but that doesnt mean I dont care.

R.

2005-03-07T11:07:00.000-08:00

http://www.milkandcookies.com/links/26083/

2005-02-20T17:57:00.000-08:00

http://charlesistheman.buzznet.com/user/?id=909275

2005-01-15T01:07:00.000-08:00

UltraSound!

2004-11-18T22:40:00.000-08:00

Check out the NEW images!!

2004-07-13T15:39:00.000-07:00

not a single sign of truck activity

2004-05-15T01:55:00.000-07:00

Why I am good to clean out the back of the truck?

2004-04-30T09:43:00.000-07:00

Charles wakes up in the middle of the night and says...bugs are crawling all over me. I go and get the flash light and he says "You wont find anything I was dreaming"

2004-04-27T18:44:00.000-07:00

2004-04-26T07:37:00.000-07:00

Went to Carrows for breakfast. Charles saw the cherry on my milkshake and the 2 ladys that were serving us brought him a bowl of cherrys.He ordered a short stack by himself.

2004-04-20T12:39:00.000-07:00

Whisper in my ear "BrainWash"

2004-04-14T12:12:00.000-07:00

Driving back from park and he calls mom on the cell phone. While waiting for the ring height says " A Little Music Please".

2004-04-11T08:54:00.000-07:00

The Chicken it Poops out Gumballs!!!

2004-04-11T08:51:00.000-07:00

Look! The Easter Bunny did bring me Eggs! and a Basket full of Stuff!

2004-04-10T13:51:00.000-07:00

I get nervous when I see street signs.

2004-04-06T16:01:00.000-07:00

Charles to nurse send in the smarter doctor.

2004-04-06T11:55:00.000-07:00

Got a slip n slide water makes him happy when it suits him.

2004-04-06T11:53:00.000-07:00

Get me wet and you have to move out.

2004-04-03T13:47:00.000-08:00

Got my own email today Charlesistheman@hotmail.com

2004-04-03T12:38:00.000-08:00

Going on a berry hunt, Gonna pick some juciy ones, Were not scared, What a Beautiful Day.

2004-04-03T12:35:00.000-08:00

He now screams Pumpernickel with reckless abandon.

2004-04-01T22:04:00.000-08:00

Charles told his uncle that his friend 7604943 is his best buddy. Then he was talking about hate and his pet spider.

2004-04-01T13:04:00.000-08:00

We walking back from the park and there is a yellow plastic bag on the front door for donations. Charles grabs it and says mabey I can put my baby toys in it and go sell them.